The burden of shame
was never meant to be yours.
Shame is what surfaces when we are made to feel less than by the systems that were never designed to truly see or honor us. It shows up in how we move through work, relationships, and how we relentlessly judge ourselves.
What's important to know is that shame is not your fault. It is produced by social, cultural, and political systems that intersect to enforce conformity, control, compliance, abuse, and assign worth unevenly across many different identities and backgrounds.
And especially as women, we are conditioned to shrink, silence our needs, and measure our worth by impossible standards. Those same shitty systems will have you believe you need to "pull yourself up by the bootstraps", alone; a perfect recipe for pain and alienation.
The fact is, liberation and healing are relational.
Shame thrives in isolation but loses power in a safe, relationship-centered space.
Together, we push back on the systems that reinforce shame, co-discovering ways for you to:
Healing calls for connection, not compliance.
For some, counseling has felt like a space where you're measured against expectations: expectations to be honest, "do the work", show up a certain way, or perform "progress". Those frameworks can leave little room for how you function within the context of your lived reality.
In a healing space, those frameworks fall away. Undoing shame means putting the power back in your hands. You don't need another person, system, or therapist defining what's right for you.
I'm here to guide you back to your power.
I’m Kaileen, Licensed Professional Counselor, shame therapist, and liberation-focused guide.
In sessions, I create a zone where you can share your thoughts,
experiences, feelings, judgments, and struggles without worry of being
pathologized, "shoulded", or told what you're doing wrong. I firmly
believe that a truly warm, welcoming, human-centered atmosphere is
the best way to dial down the inner critic so you can start to feel
empowered and reconnect with the wonderful parts of you that haven't
felt safe enough to come forward.
I also carefully select the components of my approach that best fit your
individual circumstances because needs shift, and I make sure my approach
shifts with them.
Want to know more about how I work? Check out my bio and philosophy!
Is this hitting home for you?
If the answer is yes, I'd love to chat with you!
Research shows the most important aspect of effective therapy
is the relationship between client & therapist, which is why I value the
opportunity to test that fit.
If you're interested in a free video/phone consultation where you can meet me, ask questions about my approach & the process, and see if the fit feels right for you, reach
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